Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 If your son is a typical underachiever, he complains about everything that is wrong with school. He is unmotivated and seems lazy, but he is actually afraid of failure. You must stop evaluating and measuring him, and instead just love him. #2 You cannot force your son to change, and he must fight you off even if the only way he can do that is by getting worse. Instead, focus on yourself and your own strengths and weaknesses. Imagine how much better you would feel about yourself if your kid was a brilliant student and got into an Ivy League school. #3 To be able to empathize with your son, you must first be objective about him. To be objective, try to recall the cool boy or girl who did not give you the time of day. Remember the teacher who humiliated you in front of the class. #4 There are four types of kids who fall under the opt-out umbrella: mixed feelings about trying their hardest, an insecurity about their chances of academic success, a lack of motivation to do well in school, and a fear of becoming an adult.