Teams across the United States are grappling with a persistent paradox that threatens the effectiveness of their most ambitious initiatives. Despite unprecedented investment in participatory democracy programs—from participatory budgeting in New York City to citizen assemblies in Austin—these initiatives consistently struggle with a fundamental tension between individual autonomy and collective action. Community members want a meaningful voice in decisions that affect their lives, but they also resist processes that feel coercive or that subsume their individual perspectives into group consensus. Democratic innovators find themselves caught between designing processes that honor individual agency and creating collective outcomes that serve community needs.