What happens when the life you planned doesn't happen? On his wedding day, Matt promised his bride they would one day have children of their own. Like many couples, they imagined a future that felt certain. What they didn't anticipate was the long road of infertility, devastating loss, and the quiet emotional weight carried by a husband trying to stay strong. Told through the often-overlooked male perspective, Not How I Drew It Up is part memoir, part guidebook - a candid look at grief, resilience, and the strain fertility struggles can place on a marriage. With vulnerability and clarity, Matt shares the heartbreak he and his wife endured and the faith that carried them forward when answers were scarce. This book is for: Couples navigating infertility or pregnancy loss Husbands searching for language for their grief Wives who want to better understand what their partner may be feeling Friends and family members walking alongside loved ones Anyone wrestling with the gap between expectation and reality More than a story about loss, Not How I Drew It Up is a story about perseverance. It's a reminder that hope can survive disappointment - and that family can be built in more ways than one.