Many of us experience heartbreak, abuse, and a variety of "unmentionable" challenges in trying to make our relationships successful. For many couples, these challenges are daunting, especially when your partner becomes someone you despise as much as you adore. If that happens, what do you do, and how do you take good care of yourself? That's what Do You Hate the One You Love? is all about, and though it's written primarily for women, men should read it too, first to understand their partner better and then to learn a few lessons for themselves.As a professional therapist specializing in couple's therapy, Joan E. Childs has learned that the core problems and causes behind relationship strife can be traced back to childhood. This book is an adventure in intimacy, exploring universal issues that crop up in any relationship, and it describes rituals and principles that can heal a contaminated space. As Marcel Proust famously said, "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes." That's exactly what is provided here!